10 Unconscious Patterns Blocking Your Happiness
Learn about the 10 unconscious patterns blocking your happiness. Below are some of the biggest thought and emotional patterns that block you from the free flow of life, learning and thriving. You created the patterns, so you can dis-create them. This is an excerpt from my ebook How to Thrive in an Upside-Down World.
1. Blame
You are 100% responsible for every emotion that you feel. The blame game disempowers you, fooling you into thinking that a situation or a person “caused” you to feel a certain way. Does your neighbor knock on your door and then inject you with a syringe full of anger? Or does your neighbors words or behavior trigger an emotional response that you created earlier in your life? Remember, when we have a negative experience with one person, anyone that remotely reminds you of that person will trigger the old negative feelings.
When you stop blaming the world for your feelings, you have the opportunity to clean up negative patterns that you accidentally created, usually in early childhood. Since you would never knowingly create a negative emotion, you are indeed innocent. And you are also 100% responsible for all of your feelings. With responsibility comes power and you have the power to dis-create whatever you have created - whether on purpose or by accident.
2. Shame
Shame is the mistaken belief about yourself. Almost all of my Mace Energy Method clients have a negative identity of “I am unlovable/unworthy/stupid/useless.” None of these are true and almost all of us mistakenly created one of these negative identities when we were young.
I worked with a client yesterday who made the decision at a very young age that “I am unwanted”. We dis-created that and she brightened up and felt lighter, calmer and happy. She could no longer repeat the decision “I am unwanted” to me out loud without laughing.
Know that shame comes from a negative identity you mistakenly created. Aim for personal excellence and always act with integrity and virtue.
3. Guilt
One of the crafty tricks of the evil one is to tempt us into doing an action that goes against our conscience and then feeding us a continuous stream of negative thoughts and feelings of guilt. Once you realize that the entertainment and media industries are designed to trick us into believing that vice is virtue, then you can successfully navigate through our degraded culture and keep both conscience strong and your sanity intact.
We cannot be without sin in this fallen place. And God has given us a remedy: we confess our sins and repent.
If you are weighed down from the guilt of past transgressions, you can dis-create the identity who feels guilt and then you can keep your slate clean by following your God-given conscience and asking for forgiveness when you miss the mark.
4. Fear
There is a big difference between physical and psychological fear. If there is a snake or a bear on your path, physical fear will protect you. Physical fear is useful.
Psychological fear is not useful. FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. Psychological fear is stoked and used to control. Many people have been tricked into believing they need an authority to protect them. Unfortunately, these authorities don’t usually care about our best interests.
If you are feeling psychological fear, you have a negative pattern that has been activated. Psychological fear results in feelings and actions that are non-survival and work against your flowing through life. Be fearless and unstoppable today. How? By realizing that fear is not your natural state and that you can release yourself from fear-based patterns that limit you.
5. Comparing Yourself to Others
External measures of worth, including grades, standardized test scores, IQ scores, credit scores and the social credit scores desired by the oligarchs, are silly and dangerous. They don’t accurately measure learning or capability. They are not a measure of self-worth or innate capacity. They are a tool of control. People are controlled by their credit scores. My credit score tanked when I got divorced, even though nothing else changed. The intelligence quote (IQ) test was invented by eugenicists. It tries to measure your ability to manipulate abstract symbols. It has nothing to do with your ability to thrive in life.
Because we have been taught to compare ourselves with others in school and to compete for class ranking and approval, we often feel shame when we are not good at something or don’t think we are as good as other people. Social media reinforces these mistaken beliefs. Comparison is always a losing game. It will always get you tangled in a mess of negative thinking. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else and don’t compare your kids to anyone.
Do not look to any outside authority, person or measure to provide you with a sense of your own self-worth. You are created in the image of God. God doesn’t make mistakes. If you are living with a sense of low self-esteem or low confidence then this negative identity can be handled in a MEM session.
6. Sitting Still
We are designed to move. Exercise actually increases the voltage of your cells and keeps your “battery” charged. Moving your arms and legs brings needed energy to your vital organs.
Research has found that engaging the body during the working and learning process is not just helpful, it is required. Get up and move. Walk, exercise, be in nature. Let your kids move when they want to move. It doesn’t mean that they have ADHD, they are alive, energetic beings. Neurophysiologist and educator Carla Hannaford wrote a wonderful book on the subject called Smart Moves.
7. Focusing on Mechanics Instead of Meaning
If you focus on “doing it right” instead of having fun doing it, you will block your enthusiasm for life. Perfectionism is just a negative identity. My daughter Kayli loved reading and writing, but learned to hate it when she tried school for 7th grade. This is because focusing on just the mechanics stifles the love of learning and living.
Humans need to understand the relevance of something and make it meaningful to enjoy doing it. Parents continually asked Michael Jordan how to make their sons great basketball players. His response was always,”Let them learn to love basketball.” You will enjoy life when you invest your time doing meaningful work, being with people you love, and playing without a focus on the outcome. You get to decide what is meaningful to you.
8. Boredom
Repetitive boredom leads to apathy. School is intentionally made boring so that we check out and are willing to accept boring jobs. When a child is forced to study a subject that he/she has not interest in, frustration and boredom will ensue. We are trained to tolerate boredom for the false promise of future rewards. Then, when our lives seem mundane and boring, we fall into less than desirable habits to numb the boredom.
Don’t waste your time on scrolling social media, playing video games and allowing your subconscious to be manipulated by programming in TV and movies. To avoid boredom, follow your interests, learn something new that you are truly excited about, and seek out new adventures. You are designed to learn and grow throughout your life. Most learning happens in informal settings, not in school.
9. Procrastination
All procrastination comes from a negative identity you accidentally created.
If you avoid doing something, ask yourself if you truly want to do it or if it is a “should”. Never should on yourself. If you truly want to do something, and keep procrastinating, then a negative identity is getting in your way. The Mace Energy Methodtm Specialized Activity Procedure handles any negative identity that might be stopping you from making decisions, starting, persevering and completing a project.
10. Distraction
There is a war for your attention. Don’t let dystopian stories and false narratives steal your attention.
The endless repetitive stream of bad news is designed to traumatize and demoralize us. With the use of AI, we don’t even know if the bad news is true or a fake digitized movie. Stop being mesmerized by the train wreck of our crumbling institutions.
When you are in action creating and sharing Truth, Beauty, and Goodness you will not be distracted by darkness. Remember, you control your intention and attention. Set your intention to live a beautiful life and keep your attention on this intention. Grow your own food. Gather with friends and families to share meals. Always be prayed up.
Need help eliminating this patterns of self-sabotage? Book a free consult with Caprice today.
