The Key to Inner Peace

Pause, Pivot & Pray

The key to inner peace is to realize that you are always choosing what you put your attention on.

My clients often ask me how to avoid creating any more unwanted emotional patterns now that they are in a state of inner peace and joy. I’ve contemplated this and here is my current understanding (which may evolve in the future)…

In any moment, you can choose where to place your attention and which thoughts and emotions to feed with your energy.

When your awareness is hijacked by a negative emotional pattern, you lose control and don’t realize that you have options. Once that negative pattern is eliminated, you now have the ability to choose your response.

One of my clients is learning the art of acceptance. She has realized that she can breathe through any emotion that she experiences and choose not to react. When you are no longer triggered by anything or anyone, you can allow emotions to flow through you without having them hook you.

PAUSE

The first step is to PAUSE. The power is in the pause. In that moment, you take a step back, so to speak, and become a witness to the situation and the emotions that are flowing through you. Remember, emotion is energy in motion. E-motion. In this pause, you are not evaluating or judging. You are simply being the neutral observer that is the REAL YOU.

PIVOT

The second step is to PIVOT away from any habitual reactions that might try to take over. Even though you have worked with me to eliminate the cause of emotional reactions — which are energetic patterns buried in your psyche — there may still be a tendency to fall into an old habit. This is your opportunity to create a new pro-survival habit by responding in a way that is right for you.

Reactions always come from a negative identity. Responses come from the REAL YOU and are right for you. So, my response to a situation might be different than your response. It is your game of life and only you know how to play it in a way that benefits you.

PRAY

This third step will be up to you and your relationship with God. For me, I pray and ask for wisdom and discernment. I state my intention that my will be God’s will. When my will is in alignment, I feel the inner peace and love that only has once true source, the Creator of all that is.

You Choose

So, the next time you feel an unpleasant emotion, remember that you have the power to PAUSE, PIVOT and PRAY. You get to decide how you want to respond.

And, if you are continually getting triggered and reacting, then it might be time for a coaching session with me.