Well-Being: A New Paradigm
We all want to be happy and end our suffering. I've pursued many false paths and hit dead ends in my search for well-being. The search can even become an addiction. I hope this article helps you on your journey.
“No individual, no group, no organization, no matter how big and powerful, has a lien on knowledge. Knowledge belongs to all.”
— John Mace
To learn something new, often times we need to unlearn the errors that we’ve been taught. This applies to the field of well-being and emotional health. I will begin with my story so that you can see how I have been deceived on my path and how I came to discover this new paradigm.
My Mid-Life Crisis
I had a mid-life crisis when I turned 30. I realized that I had followed a recipe for success and happiness that I had blindly accepted as my own. I had been trying to achieve my way to feeling worthy enough to love myself. I think this is a trap many of us fall into.
I went to college, worked for two U.S. Senators, got an MBA from Carnegie Mellon, got married, was making six figures working as a business strategy consultant. And I was unhappy. At the time, I blamed my unhappiness on a career that didn’t suit me and a husband that was emotionally unavailable, often unkind, and chronically unemployed. I didn’t yet understand that happiness is my natural state and I am 100% responsible for my feelings. I now understand that no situation or person can make me feel anything.
I decided to leave the corporate world and build a company based on my own values not the ones that I had mistakenly taken for my own. What did I value? Freedom, integrity, honesty, love, kindness. I didn’t see a lot of these values being lived within the corporate world. I hoped to build a company where people would love to work. While it was a based on a great business model and I had a solid management team and Board of Advisors (including the former COO of the worldwide 7-11 chain), we couldn’t get the funding we needed to build our prototype.
I closed the company and filed for a divorce at the same time. I was feeling defeat, grief, and low self-esteem. This was supposed to be the ONE. During pre-marital counseling, our minister had told us that he never met a couple better suited for each other. We even wrote our own vows that hung beautifully in our living room. Alas, a year after our divorce my ex-husband said that my divorcing him was exactly what he needed to snap out of his malaise. He told me that he had been completely checked out during the four years we were married.
A Fresh Start
So my marriage and business failed almost simultaneously. I went back into consulting to pay off my debts. I then started a consulting firm with some peers focused on strategy and culture. In the process, I got certified as a Personal and Professional Coach (CPPM) by the Newfield Network, which focuses on ontological coaching. That’s a fancy term for — we focus on the cause of behavior, not the behavior itself. What did the Newfield Network see as the cause of suffering and unwanted behavior? Incorrect thinking and being out of tune with your body and authentic emotions.
We did a lot of bodywork in the Newfield training. My coaching training helped me make friends with my body and really feel my feelings. 17 years of schooling had taught me to live in my head and analyze situations rather than feel feelings. I discovered that my body has intelligence in every cell. I also reconnected with my intuition, which is the guiding force we all have.
Given my natural tendency to question everything and ask powerful questions, I was a good coach. My clients would tell me that they fired their counselor because I asked better questions and they made huge shifts in their careers and lives.
My Path through Trauma to Wellbeing
As I worked to rebuild my life and sort myself out, I was targeted by a psychopath. He pretended to be my lost soulmate, my twin flame. Without any education about psychopathy or personality disorders, I fell for it. I did break off the engagement briefly when I realized I couldn’t deal with his “anger issues”. However, my Newfield coaching Mentor talked me into the marriage by convincing me that “love is the most important thing.” I allowed an outside authority to override my intuition. And my mentor committed coaching malpractice.
We were together for 17 years and I have two amazing daughters because of that relationship. The aftermath of the divorce was extremely difficult, especially for my daughters. It is not just my story to tell so I shall refrain. I will only share that when I changed my name back to my maiden name, my daughters (9 and 13 at the time) chose my maiden name as well, which surprised me.
My Shocking Discovery
I didn’t figure out that he was a psychopath until I kicked him out for seeing other women. A friend recommended a book on psychopaths, and one of the three profiles in that book fit him perfectly. I was shocked. I realized that I had stayed in that marriage longer than I wanted to protect my daughters. It is difficult to be happy and peaceful when you are living with a disordered individual who is constantly gaslighting you.
The healing process was long as I searched for healing modalities. I took a course called The Living Recovery program that helped me understand why I was an easy target and how psychopathy works. Unfortunately, I also was told that I would always be a broken vessel because of the trauma. That’s okay they said - the light comes in through the cracks.
I share this with you to show that there are so many of us wounded people looking in the wrong direction for healing. Trauma is not permanent. It can be healed. And we all need better education on psychopathy. Psychopaths are hiding in plain sight and wreaking havoc on humanity from their positions of wealth and power. Remember, they are sicker than we are smart.
Trying to Heal Trauma
I dove deep into how to heal trauma. Not just for me. For my precious daughters. I bore a lot of mama guilt for what happened to them. I felt so stupid for being deceived. It shattered my self-trust for a few years. At one point, 3 years after the divorce, my daughters told me at a coffee shop, “Mom, we forgive you. Now it’s time for you to forgive yourself.”
I looked at healing trauma from all perspectives and directions. It made sense to me that your body keeps score and trauma gets stuck in your body. All you have to do is watch your dog shake its body after an upsetting event to see how animals deal with trauma. We humans are more complicated because we have self awareness, memory, and the capacity to analyze situations and stay stuck in the past. We also have never been shown how we really operate and how our survival urge creates negative patterns that prove to be non-survival.
We tried a lot of modalities that didn’t work. I saw through the scam of psychiatry. Psychiatric drugs are highly toxic and have awful side effects including suicide. Talk therapy never worked for my daughters and often made them more anxious and unhappy. I tried everything, including EFT, meditation, affirmations, the Sedona Method, Letting Go, the 3 Principles, non-duality, exercise, sunshine, and service to others.
Seeing Through the New Age Movement
I found myself attending a Unity Church, which is a “new thought” church. It gave me some comfort and I became friends with the minister who helped my daughters and I with the difficulty of moving across the country to get some space for healing. I cut off ties with this church when it required v** passports to attend. And I began questioning my faith.
On an important side note, a friend recently sent me her presentation on the New Age Movement and then I watched a presentation by Courtenay Turner for the Rising Tide Foundation. I realized that I have been duped many times by “new age” gurus. I am not suggesting that they are all bad actors or that they even know they are part of a deceptive movement. However, I now avoid any person or organization that claims “you are God” or you “can have godlike capacities”. I also steer clear of anyone who is "channelling information" because it looks to me like that is coming from dark forces.
I had reached a dead end with my exploration of new age concepts and non-duality. I realized that — yes, I am pure presence awareness. I am not my body. I am not my mind. I am the one that can observe my body and mind. I could separate from my suffering and observe it. Yet, I still suffered.
(I encourage you to explore the roots of any person or method before you start down a path. One reason that I am writing this article is to show you my roots. I am now studying early Christianity before it was infiltrated. When I encounter Truth, I get a visceral response. Be discerning. Learn to know Truth. Trust your intuition.)
Well-Being: Searching for a New Paradigm
When the Plandemonium happened, I was working as an independent business consultant and an executive and life coach. I started to lean into business consulting more because I found it simpler to help CEOs and business owners optimize their business systems and processes than to alleviate pain and suffering.
So how did I discover a new paradigm for well-being? As the world got crazier, I realized that I needed a new tool in my coaching toolbox to help my clients heal from trauma and get rid of negative thoughts and emotions. Too many people were making non-survival decisions. I was also looking for relief from my own emotional pain.
In my quest for a new healing modality, I came across many scientific paradigms that were purposely excluded from my schooling. I discovered that we are living in an electric universe, that germ theory is a scam, and that voltage is healing. The pieces started to come together and make sense. I threw out a lot of the new age nonsense and leaned into the real science. I came to understand that we are not a bio-chemical machines. We are electric beings. Energetic beings.
We are spiritual beings having a human experience. You and I have been given a body and mind to navigate this physical realm. This is my direct experience of life. I don’t need to believe anybody’s theories or dogmas to test this for myself. Test it for yourself. Are you aware of your body? Are you aware of your thoughts? Who is aware of these?
If you believe that you are just a meat sack carrying around a brain, you will have a limited experience of life. You will fear death. Maybe you will seek happiness in stuff and achievements. Do you know where your consciousness comes from? Are you in control of your thoughts and emotions? (Even non-duality teaches that thoughts and emotions aren’t really yours so just watch them like clouds in the sky.)
If you don’t know what you are and where you are, you will fumble around in the dark seeking happiness and peace, not even knowing where to look.
Discovering the Mace Energy Method
In 2021, out of the blue, a fellow business consultant sent me the website of Jerry Marzinsky. Jerry is a psychotherapist that worked with violent criminals and people diagnosed with schizophrenia. He discovered that his patients were running negative programs that could be classified into 23 patterns. Since there were patterns, how could they be hallucinations? Jerry concluded that these people were being attacked by demons.
As I explored Jerry’s work and added it to an online course I was developing, I had a life-changing experience that convinced me that demonic forces are real. I used Jerry’s program to protect myself from these evil forces. It worked and my mind was blown. I will write about that in a separate post if you are interested.
Even if you don’t believe in the evil one or demonic forces, you must ask why the Bible mentions Jesus expelling demons 25 times. Why has evil been removed from children’s literature? I was so naive. Why didn’t I know about everyday psychopaths before I started dating? I had no idea that my loyalty, trust, resourcefulness, and compassion made me a target. And I suspect that there are many people like me out there that cannot imagine there are people operating without conscience or empathy.
Fast forward to 2023. I was feeling low one day and was guided back to Jerry’s website. I watched an interview where he casually mentioned John Mace and the Mace Energy Method. He said that this worked better than anything he hade every found to get rid of demons and eliminate negative emotions and thoughts. Here is an interview Jerry did recently with Mace pioneer John Avery.
My innate knowing was that I needed to become a Mace practitioner so that I could help myself, my daughters, and others. So I chose to do the Mace practitioner training and I am grateful that I did. Not only did I learn how to do the Mace Energy Method with others, my trainer made sure that I cleared my negative identities so that I would be squeaky clean for clients.
What Causes Negative Feelings and Thoughts?
So why do you have negative thoughts and feelings? This is where the Causism Institute comes in. John Mace discovered that the cause of everything we experience in the material universe has its cause in the energetic universe. And there is a third universe — your personal universe. Your personal universe consists of whatever you are aware of in this moment. Your personal universe is the intersection of the material and energetic universes.
The reason that talk therapy, pharmaceuticals, meditation, and affirmations don’t work is because they are dabbling around in the material universe.
“No matter how long you spend talking about your emotional problems, no matter how much introspection you engage in concerning them, you will never locate the relative negative identities that create these problems. They are too subtle and too deeply buried in the psyche to be located in that manner. This is a major difference separating us from conventional counseling: we have realized the futility of talking about your problems. In fact, talking about them can often make them seem worse.”
— John Mace, Causism
John Mace created the Mace Energy Method (MEM) to eliminate the cause of emotional disturbances in minutes. MEM is neutral when it comes to religion because is has a scientific foundation. It is clean — clear of all dogma and belief — as one of my fellow Mace practitioners puts it.
What is an Emotion?
You are an energetic being. A human energy unit. Your thoughts are electric. Your emotions are energy. An emotion is energy in motion. E-motion. You feel an emotion when an energy ridge impinges on your body.
As energy, you are perfect because energy is perfect. Your natural state is a the high vibratory state of happiness, peace, honesty, integrity, and love. When energy that is in resonance with your natural high vibratory state impinges of your body, it feels good. You doń’t resist it. You are coherent. These are the emotions of love, peace, gratitude, and enthusiasm.
We all know this. When you are around someone with “good vibes” you enjoy being with them. You naturally avoid people with “low vibes” if you are in your natural state of happiness.
When an energy ridge of low vibration impinges on your body, it will feel uncomfortable because it is not in resonance with your natural state of happiness and peace. Depending on the vibration, you will label the feeling “anger”, “sadness”, “fear”, or another negative emotion. You don’t like it. So you resist it. What you resist persists. This energy ridge gets stuck in your psyche and over time, it becomes a negative identity.
What is an Identity?
“Every identity is created to solve some problem of our survival.”
— John Mace
What is an identity? It is just the various roles we play in life. We all have them. I am a mother, sister, daughter, business consultant and now a Mace practitioner. These are positive identities. We knowingly and purposefully create positive identities. I created the identity of “driver” when I chose to learn to drive. I created the identity “business consultant” when I got my MBA and joined a strategy consulting firm.
Each identity has its own set of character traits. I learned about positive identities in my coaching training in 2000. I was good at helping my clients strengthen their positive identities, whether of spouse, executive, salesperson, engineer, etc. And I was unaware of negative identities that get in our way.
It is the negative identities that the Mace Energy Method (MEM) is concerned with. We unknowingly and mistakenly create negative identities in a split second in a moment of upset in order to protect ourself and survive. In the moment, it is pro-survival and in the long run, it is non-survival.
Whenever you react to a situation, it always makes the situation worse. You know that you are being controlled by a negative identity when you react. The media, entertainment, politicians constantly try to get us to react to their fictional narrative so that we will think what they want us to think and react in ways that are ultimately non-survival.
How You Create Negative Identities
A Mace practitioner works with you to locate your negative identities through the upsets you have experienced in your life. When you experience an upset, you automatically create two negative identities — one to represent the feeling, and one to represent a negative decision that you made about yourself as a person to handle the upset.
For example, pretend that a mother told her young child “you’ll never amount to anything”. A negative feeling will instantly happen in that child. It could be sadness, fear, or anger depending upon the person. They resist this feeling and it gets buried in their psyche to become a negative identity. As they go through life, anytime someone criticizes them in a similar way, the negative identity gets triggered, they feed it some energy, it grows, and over time takes over their life.
To deal with this early upset, the child made a decision. Because they were in a low mood and their attention was on themself, they make a negative decision about themself. They unconsciously and unknowingly turned on themself. Perhaps they decided “I am a loser”. They then become this decision. The thought “I am a loser” may not be in their conscious awareness as an adult, yet they navigate life with the sense of being a loser. It is very subtle.
How MEM Works
In a Mace Foundation session, your Mace practitioner will take you through a series of procedures to locate and dis-create the negative identities you unknowingly created in moments of upset.
MEM works with an amazing discovery concerning the mind. Your mind is not what you have been told. It has none of the properties or capacities that we think it does. Your mind is simply a stimulus response mechanism like a computer screen. When you, the being, has your attention on something, your mind makes an image to represent it.
Clients need not relive painful experiences. They only need to focus on a visual of the upsetting moment. It involves locating the negative feelings you felt and the negative decisions you made about yourself in upsets. Your mind makes images to represent the feelings and negative identities that you handle in a Mace session. Then your Mace practitioner guides you to watch the image. It is simple, powerful, and profound. A Mace Practitioner helps you to get the positive energy and potential trapped in negative identities back for you, the spiritual being.
And as my client Kris wrote:
“I was blown away by the results! I feel lighter, more open and loving, and significantly clearer. Things that used to trigger me and hold an emotional charge have completely disappeared. MACE with Caprice HAS TO BE experienced to be believed!”
MEM is powerful and permanent. The only requirement is that you are sincerely committed to change. I know that this seems too good to be true. We have been fooled into believing that unhappiness and suffering are just part of life. Or that we need to work really hard to heal.
MEM is not Self-Help
Unfortunately, you cannot dis-create these negative identities yourself. Why? Because once you find one, you are automatically in it. Just like you cannot see your whole car unless you get out of it, you cannot capture the energy trapped in a negative identity without the guidance of someone outside of it. This is how John Mace explains it in his book Causism:
“Think about someone who recently upset you, or someone you do not particularly like. Now think of someone of who you are very fond — perhaps a loving spouse or child.
Your feelings will be very different between the two. This is because, in life, following our attention, we all flip from identity to identity, and you cannot be in two identities at the same time. No matter how quickly you flip from one identity to another, you cannot be in a self-help identity at the same time you are thinking about an identity you want to eliminate. Therefore, you cannot simultaneously be both a ‘practitioner’ and a ‘client’. In other words, there is no way a person can dis-create his or her own negative identities.”
Why Everyone Can Benefit from a MEM Session
I love MEM because it is empowering. It is not confrontational. It is not about coming and talking with me about your problems every week for the rest of your life. If you have problems it is because a negative identity is running the show. You dis-create the cause with the guidance of a Mace practitioner.
Also, MEM doesn’t require any self-disclosure. Your personal life stays personal. We aren’t concerned with what happened in the event. We are only concerned with how the event made you feel.
When you, the spiritual energetic being, is in control you will respond to situations and the response will always be right for you. The mission of MEM is “To put you in control of your life so that you are living your dreams.”
I am rewarded with big smiles from my clients every time we conclude a Mace Session. At the end of a session yesterday, my client looked at me and said, "This is good. I feel great. There is nothing left for me to handle. And I didn't have to talk about anything that happened."
The Ultimate Solution
The solution to the evil we see in this world is not to fight it directly. It is to make sure that the real you is in control and responding in pro-survival ways. When people are fearful, they often seek an outside authority to save them even if they must give up some of their liberties. Fear comes from a negative identity.
When you permanently eliminate your negative thoughts and emotions, you are back in control. Once you are no longer controlled by fear, sadness, or anger you will not be reactive. You cannot be triggered. You will be able to respond to situations in a pro-survival way. When you see people being harmed, you may still feel sad. And you will respond, not react.
I invite you to view people as equal spiritual beings trying to survive in this game of life. We can have more compassion and engage in productive conversations about how to cooperate. Let's call people out when they are acting from negative identities - doing psychopathic acts and causing great harm. We don’t have to share similar beliefs to avoid war. Most of us are just trying to survive and be happy.
So, go to the Causism Institute and choose a Mace Practitioner that resonates with you. I didn’t write this to promote my own services, but to introduce you to a new paradigm of well-being and emotional health. If you were happy, would you stop the endless search for happiness and peace? Would you be living your dreams if you were in control? If you felt no anger, sadness, or fear would you condone war?
Thank you for taking this journey with me. Reach out if I can be of service.
